Lost girl

I found out that I not only knew the 13 year-old girl who died in an auto accident in December, but I'd held her on my lap. Cajoled her. Laughed with her. Made me so indescribably sad, and does so even now. To hear how her dad (my tie to her) has "good day and bad days" is so hard. I don't know the words to say to comfort or console him. What a terrible loss.